15. Thinking Interdependently

Being able to work in and learn from others in reciprocal situations.

Work together; Learn together!

 

“Take care of each other.  Share your energies with the group.  No one must feel alone, cut off, for that is when you do not make it.”

Willi Unsoeld

(Renowned mountain climber)

 

“The firmest friendships have been formed in mutual adversity, as iron is most strongly united by the fiercest flame.”

Charles Caleb Colton

 

“An unshared life is not living. He who shares does not lessen, but greatens, his life.”

Rabbi Stephen S. Wise

 

“We are, each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another.”

Luciano De Crescenzo, Author

 

“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong.

Because someday in life you will have been all of these.”

George Washington Carver

 

“Every person you meet – and everything you do in life – is an opportunity to learn something. ”

Tom Clancy, Author

 

“To keep your resolve, surround yourself with those who want you to succeed.

The brain cannot do its job of protecting the body without contact with other people.”

Robert Ornstein and David Sobel in

“The Healing Brain”

 

“I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become reality.

I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word.”

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

 

 

 

“Success depends above all, upon people.

Build relationships, teams, partnerships — and motivate people to contribute.

Cultivate leadership, creativity, excellence. Listen; seek new ideas and advice. ”

Ruth Scott

 

“Gardens, scholars say, are the first sign of commitment to a community.

When people plant corn they are saying, let’s stay here.

And by their connection to the land, they are connected to one another.”

Anne Raver

 

Getting along well with other people is still the world’s most needed skill.

With it…there is no limit to what person can do.

We need people, we need the cooperation of others.  There is very little we can do alone

Earl Nightingale

 

“Every function in.. cultural development appears twice:

First, on the social level, and later on the individual level; first between people (interpsychological), and then inside (intrapsychological).

This applies equally to voluntary attention, to logical memory, and to the formation of concepts.

All the higher functions originate as actual relationships between individuals.”

Lev Vygotsky

 

“Anytime a change takes place in the future, it starts as a vision in someone’s mind.

The person draws other people into that vision and when enough people are drawn into share that vision, it explodes into activity.”

Nancy Hathaway

 

“Snowflakes are one of nature’s most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together.”

Vista M. Kelly

 

“It is good to rub and polish our brain against that of others.”

Michael De Montaigne

 

“Good friendships are fragile things and require as much care as any other fragile and precious thing.”

Randolph Bourne

 

“The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself.”

George Bernard Shaw

 

“In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for what ever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us.”

Hora Edwards

 

“Happiness in life is not measured by the things we achieve, the places we go, or the route that we take to get there.

Happiness in life is measured by the people that we share all of our experiences with.”

Chris Needham

 

“The only true gift is a portion of yourself.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

“It is a good idea to be ambitious, to have goals, to want to be good at what you do,

but it is a terrible mistake to let drive and ambition get in the way of

treating people with kindness and decency.

The point is not that they will then be nice to you.

It is that you will feel better about yourself.”

Robert Merton Solow

 

“He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skill.

Our antagonist in our helper.”

Edmund Burke

 

“The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement.

Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential.

If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most

everyone would blossom and the world would produce

abundance beyond our wildest dreams.”

Sidney Madwed

 

“An authentic leader acts in ways which serve to elevate those around him.”

Sean M. Georges

 

“How can you have charisma?

Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.”

Dan Reiland

 

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world.

Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

Margaret Mead

 

“Shared values are the glue that holds this organization together”

Shelly Brown

 

“A community is like a ship; everyone ought to be prepared to take the helm.”

Henrik Ibsen

 

 

“It may have happened that, at some point in my life, I took some part of me out of the darkness and placed it in the light for the eyes of another.

It may be that this other person did not understand, and I ran full of regrets into a painful emotional solitude.

Yet, there may have been other moments when someone heard my secret and accepted my confidence in gentle hands.

I remember the gentle pressure that told me I was understood.

It was a great and liberating experience, and in its wake I felt so much more alive.

An immense need had been answered in me to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, and to be understood.

It is only through this kind of sharing that we come to know ourselves.

Introspection of itself is helpless.

We can confide all of our secrets to the docile pages of a personal diary, but we can know ourselves and experience the fullness of life only in the sharing with another person.”

John Powell

 

“Nobody, but nobody / Can make it out here alone.”

Maya Angelou

 

“He who knows others is wise; / He knows himself is enlightened.”

Lao-Tzu”

 

“There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem,

the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity.”

Nathaniel Branden

 

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive,

and it is only by this meeting that this new world is born.”

Anais Nin

 

“Community is…a dynamic set of relationships in which a synergistic, self-regulating whole is created out of the combination of individual parts into a cohesive, identifiable, unified form.”

Center for the Study of Community,

Santa Fe, New Mexico

 

“The Master Mind principle: Two or more people actively engaged in the pursuit of a definite purpose with a positive mental attitude, constitute an unbeatable force.”

Napoleon Hill

 

“Isolation is a blind alley….Nothing on the planet grows except by convergence.”

Teilhard de Chardin

 

“The ultimate use of power is to empower others.”

William Glasser

 

 

“Communities are places or entities where each member can give something, where they can contribute something that they feel especially able to give, something that they are good at.

The gift from each member is valued by the whole community

and all gifts are unique and individual.

The gift that community gives back to each member is that of a role and a connection.”

Ed Margarson

 

“True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost.”

Charles Caleb Colton

 

“Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow.

Don’t walk behind me, I may not lead.

Walk beside me and be my friend.”

Albert Camus.

 

“Friendship is one mind in two bodies.”

Mencius

 

“I’ll lean on you and you lean on me and we’ll be okay.”

Dave Matthews Band

 

“Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say.

Best friends listen to what you don’t say.”

Anonymous

 

“We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go,

we take a little of each other everywhere”

Tim McGraw

 

“Become the world’s most thoughtful friend.”

H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Author

 

“We are all healers of each other. Look at David Spiegel’s fascinating study of putting people together in a support group and seeking that some people in it live twice as long as other people who are not in a support group.  I asked David what went on in those groups and he said that people just cared about each other.  Nothing big, no deep psychological stuff–people just cared about each other.  The reality is that healing happens between people.”

Rachel Naomi Remen

 

“We provide both irritation and inspiration for each other—

the grist for each other’s pearl making.”

Stephen Nachmonovitch

 

“It takes two to know one.”

Gregory Bateson

 

“The miracle is this….The more we share, the more we have”

Leonard Nimoy

 

Don’t talk about your troubles. No one loves a sad face.

Oh, Mom, the truth is

Cheer isolates,

Humor defends,

Competence intimidates,

Control separates,

And sadness,

Sadness opens us each to the other.

Bill Moyers

 

“The greatest single step in organic evolution was the aggregation of different bacteria to make the nucleated cell.  Similarly, the greatest step so far in our cultural evolution has been the aggregation of different cultures to make multi-cultures.  There are many kinds of multi-culture, ranging from multinational corporations to major cities like New York.  But the self-complication of human culture will not stop there, because it is a self-propelled process.  Today’s multi-cultures are like the creatures of a colony, coexisting as more or less isolated ‘ghettos.’ Tomorrow’s multi-cultures will be more like genuine multi-cellular organism’s, in which ‘extelligence’ is specialized like the different tissues of a complex animal.  Our new communication technologies are beginning to knit all of the different multi-cultures into a new entity, a superculture: Humanity.”

Ian Stewart and Jack Cohen

 

“As we develop soul in our work we need to recognize our dual identity: We are both individuals and members of a group.  Indeed, finding the soul of work involves the balance and integration of apparent opposites, such as head and heart, intellect and intuition, and self and group.  This process is not so much based on the ‘shoulds but upon ‘what is.’ It is my belief that as we attend to the soul of work, we will find we feel more complete.

Daryl Paulson

 

“People are not willing to take risks when they feel afraid or threatened.  But if you manage people by love–that is, if you show them respect and trust–they start to perform up to their real capabilities.”

Jan Carlson, CEO

Scandinavian Airlines

 

“Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision.  The ability to direct individual accomplishment toward organizational objectives.  It is the fuel that allows common people to accomplish uncommon results.”

Anonymous

 

I desire that there be as many different persons in the world as possible;

I would have each one be very careful to find out and preserve his own way.

Henry David Thoreau

 

 

“Achievement is a we thing, not a me thing, always the produce of many heads and hands.”

J. Atkinson

 

Team members need to be able to suspend disbelief, think the unthinkable, and let intuition and premonitions flow freely.

Therefore, a necessary skill in team members is tolerance for ambiguity.

Kees van der Heijden

 

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil.

For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.

Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone?

And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him.

A threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-13

 

“A unique relationship develops among team members who enter into dialogue regularly.  They develop a deep trust that cannot help but carry over to discussions.  They develop a richer understanding of the uniqueness of each person’s point of view.”

Peter Senge

 

“A person’s friendships are one of the best measures of his worth.”

Charles Darwin

 

“He alone has lost the art to live who cannot win new friends.”

S. Weir Mitchell

 

“Since there is nothing so worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them.”

Francesco Guicciardini

 

“A man’s growth is seen in the successive choir of his friends.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

“Solitude: A good place to visit, but a poor place to stay.”

Josh Billing

 

“A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.”

Donna Roberts

 

“Help your brother’s boat across, and your own will reach the shore.”

Hindu proverb

 

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service to others.”

Mahatma Gandhi

 

“You can get everything you want in life, if you just

help enough other people get what they want.

–        Zig Ziglar

 

Now this is the Law of the Jungle–as old and as true as the sky:

And the Wolf that shall keep it may prosper; but the

Wolf that shall break it must die.

 

As the creeper that girdles the tree-trunk the Law runneth forward and back–

For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf,

And the strength of the Wolf is the Pack.

 

Now this is the Law of the Jungle–as old and as true as the sky:

And the player that keeps it shall prosper;

But the player that breaks it must die.

 

As the ball and the parts it is made of

Are bound and held fast at the seam–

The strength of the team is the player;

And the strength of the player the team.

Rudyard Kipling

 

“We need a spirit of community, a sense that we are all in this together.

If we have no sense of community, the American dream will wither.”

Bill Clinton

 

“Here’s what is exciting about sharing ideas with others:

if you share a new idea with ten people, they get to hear

it once and you get to hear it ten times. ”

Jim Rohn, Speaker and Author

 

“I not only use all the brains I have, but all I can borrow.”

Woodrow Wilson

 

“We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

“Knowledge, or anything else for that matter, really doesn’t exist until it is shared.  Intelligent, kind –hearted people who freely share their knowledge an humanity in the workplace will find the greatest success.”

Joel Schettler

 

“When spiders unite, they can tie up a lion.”

Ethiopian Proverb

 

 

“Nobody wins unless everybody wins.”

Bruce Springsteen

 

“Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school.

But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.”

Muhammad Ali

 

“The man who thinks he can live without others is mistaken;

the one who thinks others can’t live without him is even more deluded.”

Hasidic saying

 

“No man is wise enough by himself.”

Plautus

 

“If a link is broken, the entire chain breaks.”

Yiddish proverb

 

“Individual commitment to a group effort, that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization  work.”

Vince Lombardi

 

“Relationships are a prerequisite for producing results beyond ourselves.

They expand our imaginations to infinite possibilities that cannot exist in a life of isolation.”

Brian Koslow

 

“We cannot swing up on a rope that is attached only to our own belt.”

William Ernest Hocking

 

“The most needed, wanted, and powerful activity in which you can engage on or off the job is to  authentically recognize, acknowledge, and appreciate others.”

Brian Koslow

 

“Difference is the beginning of synergy.”

Stephen R. Covey, Author

 

“In the long history of humankind (and animalkind, too) those who learned to collaborate and improvise most effectively have prevailed.”

Charles Darwin

 

“No man so wise that he may not easily err if he takes no other counsel than his own. He that is taught only by himself has a fool for a master.”

Ben Jonson poet, dramatist

 

“Good company and good discourse are the very sinews of virtue.”

Izaak Walton

 

“No matter what accomplishments you achieve, somebody helped you.”

Althea Gibson, tennis champion

 

“None of us has gotten where we are solely by pulling ourselves up from our own bootstraps.

We got here because somebody. bent down and helped us.”

Thurgood Marshall, U.S. Supreme Court Justice

 

“By working together, pooling our resources and building on our strengths,

we can accomplish great things.”

Ronald Reagan, U.S. President

 

“Never, if possible, lie down at night without being able to say: I have made one human being, at least, a little wiser, a little happier, or a little better this day.”

Charles Kingsley, author

 

“The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers.”

Martin Luther King Jr

 

“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.”

Margaret Fuller, author and teacher

 

“Knowledge sharing is the basis of everything.  Share

knowledge with reckless abandon.”

Tim Sanders, Chief Solutions Officer at Yahoo

 

“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest

by helping others to succeed.”

Napoleon Hill, author

 

“There is no such thing as a “self-made” man.  We are made up of thousands of others.  Everyone who has ever done a kind deed for us, or spoken one word of encouragement to

us, has entered into the make-up  of our character and of our thoughts, as well as our success.”

George Adams, philosopher

 

“Great men are rarely isolated mountain-peaks; they are the summits of ranges.”

Thomas Wentworth Higginson

 

“Without a sense of caring, there can be no sense of community.”

Anthony J. D’Angelo

 

“The most satisfying thing in life is to have been able to give a large part of one’s self to others.”

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

 

“Everything is connected. No one thing can change by itself.”

Paul Hawken, author and entrepreneur

 

“No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it.”

Andrew Carnegie

 

“A man never gets to this station in life without being helped, aided, shoved, pushed and prodded to do better.  I want to be honest with you: The players I played with and the coaches I had, they are directly responsible for my being here.

I want you all to remember that.  I always will.”

-Johnny Unitas, Professional football player during

his Hall of Fame induction speech

 

“No man is a failure who has friends.”

Henry Travers as Clarence in “It’s a Wonderful Life”

 

“The team with the best athletes doesn’t usually win.

It’s the team with the athletes who play best together.”

Lisa Fernandez,. softball legend

 

“Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement…all success… all achievement in real life grows.”

Ben Stein, author, actor and economist

 

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until

they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”

Anis Nin

 

“Surround yourself with amazingly intelligent men and women. The people I work with not only are smarter than I am, possessing both intellectual and emotional intelligence, but also share my determination to succeed. I will not make an important decision without them.”

George Steinbrenner,

Owner of the New York Yankees

 

“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life depend on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving.”

Albert Einstein

 

“Ask not what your teammates can do for you. Ask what you can do for your teammates.”

Earvin “Magic” Johnson

 

“We don’t accomplish anything in this world alone … and whatever happens is the result of the whole tapestry of one’s life and all the weavings of individual threads from one to another that creates something.”

Sandra Day O’Connor

 

“Coming together is a beginning.

Keeping together is progress.

Working together is success.”

Henry  Ford

 

“Whatever power I exert is collegial.”

Katharine Graham, former owner, publisher of The Washington Post

 

“The mark of a good team is how it reacts when things aren’t going in its favor.”

Chris Osgood, Professional hockey player

 

“You must give some time to your fellow men. Even if it’s a little thing, do something for others – something for which you get no pay but the privilege of doing it.”

Albert Schweitzer, Nobel Peace Prize winner

 

“It takes a team to do anything of lasting value“

John Maxwell

 

“There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves”

Lyndon B. Johnson

 

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

Helen Keller

 

“When you ask people what it is like being part of a great team, what is most striking is the meaningfulness of the experience.  People talk about being part of something larger than themselves, of being connected, of being generative.  It becomes quite clear that, for many, their experiences as part of truly great teams stand out as singular periods of life lived to the fullest.”  Peter Senge

 

“The achievements of an organization are the results of the combined effort of each individual.”

Vince Lombardi,  Pro Football Hall of Fame coach

 

“When teams are truly learning, not only are they producing extraordinary results, but the individual members are growing more rapidly than could have occurred otherwise. “

Peter Senge The Fifth Discipline (1990) p 10

 

“You can’t stay in your corner of the forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.”

Winnie the Pooh,

 

“The successful networkers I know,

the ones receiving tonsof referrals and feeling truly happy about themselves,continually put the other person’s needs ahead of their own.”

Bob Burg, author and speaker

 

 

 

 

“We are social beings and our brains grow in a social environment.”

Eric Jensen

 

“A strong community helps people develop a sense of true self, for only in community can the self exercise and fulfill its nature:  giving and taking, listening and speaking, being and doing.  But when community unravels we lose touch with on another, the self atrophies and we lose touch with ourselves as well.  Lacking opportunities to be ourselves in a web of relationships, our sense of self disappears, leading to behaviors that further fragment our relationships and spread the epidemic of inner emptiness.”  Parker Palmer  A Hidden Wholeness

 

  “Commit yourself to excellence in everything you do, and recognize that it’s not about you. It’s always about the team, and it’s always about the team coming out with the win.”

Bill McDermott, co-chief executive of SAP

 

  When you collaborate with

other people,

you tend to regard

your own individual

contribution as the

most important.”

–Yang Jiang,

Chinese writer and translator

 

 

“If we want to go quickly go alone, but if you want to go further go together.”

African Proverb

 

  “An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”

Martin Luther King Jr.

 

 

 

 

 

  “On Spaceship Earth there are no passengers; everybody is a member of the crew. We have moved into an age in which everybody’s activities affect everybody else.”

–Marshall McLuhan,

Canadian educator, philosopher and scholar

quoted for Earth Day, April 22, 2011

 

 

 

 

  “People have been known to achieve more as a

result of working with others than against them.”

–Allan Fromme, American psychologist and writer

 

  “When a gifted team dedicates itself to unselfish

trust and combines instinct with boldness and

effort, it is ready to climb.”

–Pat Riley,

American professional basketball coach

  What I

  “What I contribute on a personal level is

a drop in the bucket and matters very little

relative to how much we achieve together.”

–Tiffany Cooper Gueye, CEO of BELL

 

“Bosses need to create environments where employees can think,

learn and innovate as a team.  We can do more as an inspired

collective than we can do alone,”

Leilani Raashida Henry. Creativity coach

 

 

  “Cooperation is the thorough conviction that nobody can get there unless everybody gets there.”

–Virginia Burden Tower,

American writer

 

  “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with

our fellow men.”

–Herman Melville,

American writer and poet

 

 

 

  “Brotherhood is the very price and condition of man’s survival.”

— Carlos Romulo,

Filipino diplomat